Youth Entitlement — Not On My Watch

Yesterday my youngest daughter (age twenty-three) handed me this Mother’s Day card and it brought back a rush of emotions (and memories.) She created a handmade greeting using two photos from many years ago.

When I looked at this picture…and the comical bunny ears (and lone Barney face) each one was wearing, it reminded me of my kids’ individuality…and their unique personalities still shine through this aged photo.

Looking at the picture brought back a lot of other memories too.

We were a craft-y family. For years we made all sorts of fun stuff: candles, baskets, soaps, potholders, knitted/crocheted scarfs/blankets, pottery, painting…if it was available, we tried it at least once.

And I’m so glad we did.

Every mom knows that crafts are messy, time-consuming (and often expensive.)

But what we gain is well worth the investment of all three.

Fun, fun, fun!

And yet, there’s another kind of investment that parents are making throughout the U.S. that isn’t helping their kids and it has a name.

Youth Entitlement

While crafts, sports, and other leisure activities do help create a well-rounded childhood (and child)….so does work.

Plain old hard work. The kind of work every adult submits themselves to every single day…but today’s child is clueless about performing.

Recently, I reviewed a new book on this specific topic…and below I’ve shared a list from the author that I think is a great starting point but certainly not exclusive to the skills our kids need to develop before they leave home.

See if you agree!

Kay Wills Wyma, author of Cleaning House: A Mom’s 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement, is a mom to five kids who realized that she (and other parents like her) were contributing to the epidemic disease raging through American homes across our country: Youth Entitlement. Wyma took a full year to implement her “experiment” where they tackled a different area of growth each month. The author set up in home training for her kids on these topics: clutter control; kitchen patrol; outdoor grounds care; employment; domestic dirty jobs; laundry; handyman jobs; entertaining and hospitality; team playing; running errands; serving others; and developing manners. Comprehensive, comical, and conducive to at-home practical application, Wyma’s resource is both timely and inspirational.

Top Twelve Things a Kid Should Know Before Flying the Coop

1. how to make a bed and maintain an orderly room
2. how to cook and clean a kitchen
3. how to do yard work
4. how to clean a bathroom
5. how to get a job…outside our home
6. how to do laundry
7. how to do handyman jobs
8. how to host a party
9. how to work together
10. how to run errands
11. how to put others first through service
12. how to act mannerly

How’s your family faring so far?